Learning control tactics can help you keep you physically and emotionally safe. Many times there are signs that we cannot understand and may even confuse with love. This is because Power and Control in relationships starts with a good feelings, such as when your partner tells you that he gets jealous of others because of how good looking you are. When you hear such things it may make you feel loved. Keeping an eye on what happens after such statements could help you identify power and control issues. In the following table we have gathered the top 4 phrases used by a perpetrator to gain power and control over someone.