Although you can’t control an abuser’s use of violence, you can plan how you will respond to future abusive or violent incidents, prepare for the possibility of an incident happening, and plan how get to safety. It is your decision if and when you tell others that you have being abused, or that you are still at risk. Friends, family, and coworkers can help with your safety plan if they are aware of the situation and want to help.
Ask yourself the following questions:
When I have to talk to the abuser, I can ________.
When I talk on the phone with the abuser, I can ________.
I can make up a “code word” for my family, co-workers, friends and counselor so they know when to call for help for me. My code word is ________.
When I feel a fight coming on, I will try to move to a place that is lowest risk for getting hurt, such as ________ (at work), ________ (at home) or ________ (in public).
I can tell my family, co-workers, boss, counselor or a friend about my situation. I feel safe telling ________.
I can screen my calls, texts, emails, and visitors. I have the right to not receive harassing phone calls, texts or emails. I can ask friends, family members or co-workers to help me screen my contacts. I can ask these people for help: ________.
I can call any of the following people for assistance or support if necessary and ask them to call the police if they see the abuser harassing me.
When leaving work, I can ________.
When walking, riding, or driving home, if problems occur, I can ________.
I can attend a victim’s/survivor’s support group with the Domestic Violence program, like ________.
Contact Information I Need To Have:
Police Department: ________
Domestic Violence Program: ________
Sexual Assault Program: ________
Spiritual Support/Clergy: ________
Probation Officer: ________